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Beginning our Adoption Journey

Posted by Brian Borgman on February 25, 2011

It’s official.  After nearly a year of prayer, contemplation, debating, and pleading (by our boys); the Borgman’s have decided to adopt.  At this point, our initial plan is to adopt two children from Ethiopia ages birth to 6 or 7 years old.  With that said, we hope to be open to God’s leading on this journey if He has other plans in store for us.

In reality, that is the main reason we are to the point we are today.  Cassie and I have felt God calling us to do this for the last 12+ months.  When I say “calling”, please understand that this has been by varying degrees over the last year.  Since the start, the boys (especially Trenton) have been very vocal about wanting to do this.  Cassie has had a strong desire to start the process, especially over the last few months.  I, on the other hand, have been making excuse after excuse, for why we should not adopt.

Funny how God speaks through others to move you in the direction He wants you to move.  Our minister, Kyle Idleman, preached a few weeks ago about missions.  It was a moving message about our calling as Christians to not lead “ordinary” lives and to reach out to the lost in our world.  At some point during the message, Kyle mentioned how God calls us to different things in our lives. He went on to state that (as Christians) if we don’t follow that call; we are being disobedient to God.  That hit me right between the eyes.  My God and Father laid on my family’s heart to adopt nearly a year ago.  All the while, I have been making excuses as to why we shouldn’t adopt…to that end, I have been disobedient to God and His ultimate plan for my life and for the lives of my family.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  – Jeremiah 29:11

My reasons for not wanting to start this journey were all about ME (though I convinced myself it was about what was best for my family).  They were about my own fears of not being the provider I should be for my family.  The reasons all revolved around things that I wanted to control…

– If we adopt, our family dynamics (that I know and am comfortable with) will change.

– I’m concerned how I can afford to send my current two kids to college…how will I ever afford to send four to college?

– My boys enjoy playing on organized sports teams…how can we afford and juggle more sports schedules?

– How do I justify spending money on adoption when I still owe on a lot we purchased last year?

– Etc., etc., etc.

As you can see, I’m a bit practical and like to be in control.  However, what I have realized is that I depend an awful lot on my self.  Where was my trust in God?  Where was my faith in God and his plan for my life…for my wife’s life…for my boys’ lives?

“Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone?  Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake?  If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!”  – Matthew 6:9-11

I know this is just the 1st chapter in a new journey that God is taking our family down.  The cool thing is that I can already see how He’s worked in our lives over the last several months…and we’re just starting.  I’m anxious to see what else He has in store for my family.  We are really making an effort to open our hearts to His leading and purpose through this process.  I pray that whatever occurs during this journey that He uses it to grow me and my family and to be an example and inspiration to those that are joining us on this journey as well.

“Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails”  – Proverbs 19:21


4 Responses to “Beginning our Adoption Journey”

  1. Marie Wrigh said

    Brian and Cassie–I’m really happy for you and proud that you are “listening”!!! Just wanted to share a family with you that I know has adopted 2 Ethiopian children, a year ago now. Jon and Angela Wells. Angela is on FB and has a blog about the journey. It may be of some interest to you. He is the minister at Grafenburg Christian and I taught with her in Franklin Co. God bless you in your journey.

  2. Kim Roerk said

    Well I stumbled across Cassie’s post. So here I am reading your blog. Funny how a few years ago I had you reading Shane’s blogs, remember? Now I read yours. I am so excited for you both and your extended families. As you both know we traveled that adoption journey and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Our son is a wonderful young man who will leave the nest this year to embark on college. It is exciting and scarey all at the same time. I look forward to your blogs and I wish you much success on your adoption journey. God will guide you and walk with you. Good luck and best wishes…………

    • Good to hear from you, Kim! Thanks for the kind words. I didn’t realize that you had adopted Shane. Hope all is well. Keep an eye on the blog as we hope to keep it updated as we go through this process. Take care!

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